adventures of the bride to be...it's the little details...
Well we are getting close to hitting the mark for our one week count down!!! :) I am so excited about not only the wedding, and honeymoon, but being married to my very best friend! This week has been a challenging one. Little stressors have popped up here and there. I have a few more details to complete before I will be ready for the day before and the day of.
I must say that I have a new found respect for any one who has planned their own wedding. It is a task like none other. Like most important things, it will cause stress. The difference in planning a wedding and anything else is, it can bring out a monster in you. The term bridezilla was coined for a reason. If you don't find healthy outlets for your stress during the planning of your wedding, you could turn very quickly into something seen on a past episode of True Blood. I feel as though I have not turned into a full bridezilla during this task, but I have had fits of anger caused by stress.
One of the things that has caused more lingering stress with me than anything else was the waiting. There were certain tasks that I really couldn't get started on until a certain time. If I know I need to do something, I tend to fixate on it and worrying about whether or not I will be able to do it at the time it is needed to be done. Then I worry more when I realize I could be doing that task right now at this moment and then it would be done and I wouldn't have to worry about it. But I can't do it right now because I need this first...or this part won't come in for weeks....and on and on. When something like this comes up, I tend to get grouchy.
Another item that caused me stress was when I would mess up a task that seemed relatively simple. Just today I made a simple spelling error. Dexter brought it to my attention and immediately I felt a rush of stress sweep through my body like a tidal wave. My voice transformed into a higher pitch, my face wrinkled between my eyes and all the way across my forehead(Dex calls this my Klingon face), and panic set in. Luckily enough for me he was there to not only witness this, but also to put out the fire. He reminded me of what a simple fix it would be, and that I still have time to make it whatever I want it to be. And just like that the world was right again. :) And just like that, the Lord reminded me of why he is perfect for me. :)
As the time dwindles down I realize that I need to quit getting worked up about the fact that some people didn't rsvp (I fully realize everyone I invited isn't going to come, but I put a stamp on that return envelope to see you check the regretfully decline as well - our biggest fear is to run out of food). Or that I still am not quite sure if my hair stylist will be able to make my hair look like the picture (I have very fine, thin like hair). And even yet, that I don't have the programs completely finished. These things are not the important part here. My friend Miranda said it best. Enjoy this time. Don't let yourself stress. Because no matter what goes not according to your plans that day, at the end of it, you will be married to the love of your life. So as stress comes my way in this last week of finishing up all the details, I keep thinking about what Miranda said. Every time I think about it, I get even more excited! In a little more than a week I get to call Dexter my husband! :)
I must say that I have a new found respect for any one who has planned their own wedding. It is a task like none other. Like most important things, it will cause stress. The difference in planning a wedding and anything else is, it can bring out a monster in you. The term bridezilla was coined for a reason. If you don't find healthy outlets for your stress during the planning of your wedding, you could turn very quickly into something seen on a past episode of True Blood. I feel as though I have not turned into a full bridezilla during this task, but I have had fits of anger caused by stress.
One of the things that has caused more lingering stress with me than anything else was the waiting. There were certain tasks that I really couldn't get started on until a certain time. If I know I need to do something, I tend to fixate on it and worrying about whether or not I will be able to do it at the time it is needed to be done. Then I worry more when I realize I could be doing that task right now at this moment and then it would be done and I wouldn't have to worry about it. But I can't do it right now because I need this first...or this part won't come in for weeks....and on and on. When something like this comes up, I tend to get grouchy.
Another item that caused me stress was when I would mess up a task that seemed relatively simple. Just today I made a simple spelling error. Dexter brought it to my attention and immediately I felt a rush of stress sweep through my body like a tidal wave. My voice transformed into a higher pitch, my face wrinkled between my eyes and all the way across my forehead(Dex calls this my Klingon face), and panic set in. Luckily enough for me he was there to not only witness this, but also to put out the fire. He reminded me of what a simple fix it would be, and that I still have time to make it whatever I want it to be. And just like that the world was right again. :) And just like that, the Lord reminded me of why he is perfect for me. :)
As the time dwindles down I realize that I need to quit getting worked up about the fact that some people didn't rsvp (I fully realize everyone I invited isn't going to come, but I put a stamp on that return envelope to see you check the regretfully decline as well - our biggest fear is to run out of food). Or that I still am not quite sure if my hair stylist will be able to make my hair look like the picture (I have very fine, thin like hair). And even yet, that I don't have the programs completely finished. These things are not the important part here. My friend Miranda said it best. Enjoy this time. Don't let yourself stress. Because no matter what goes not according to your plans that day, at the end of it, you will be married to the love of your life. So as stress comes my way in this last week of finishing up all the details, I keep thinking about what Miranda said. Every time I think about it, I get even more excited! In a little more than a week I get to call Dexter my husband! :)
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